My curious mind gives me another reason to portray a blunt/blatant image of myself. and yess i love to be like that. as i dont see anything wrong with my attitude. c'mon now dont say i have an Attitude problem ~! Split identity, as i called it, to make the things simple, will make majority of readers to disagree with me. did i mention that am eccentric as well ?This all starts with two persons of opposite gender... the relation between them. no no not a couple. the other ones. ok lets call it a friendship? or may be call it a relation more than friendship! reading thousands of questions from people around the world on askimam.com about this relation, the one and only reply i have seen is, 'no its stictly prohibited, please refrain from any such actions/communications'. people try to defend themselves many times saying they are gonna get married soon in future or they can't live without each other and blah blah. but the answer to all distortions is always the SAME. Humans have developed a nature of defending themselves for the wrong they do. like a bad example goes from the guy of 'Catch me if you can' movie fame. i saw his interview in which he says 'i never felt i was doing anything bad. i wasn't robbing an old homeless guy. what if i cash a fraud check for 500 bucks from a bank that has earned millions in all right as well as wrong ways'.
Prophet SAW said, marriage becomes fard on a person as soon he stands on his own feet and is no more a dependent. and this is indeed a very very logical statement. i have experienced it myself the wisdom of it. till the age of 22, when i finished studies and wasnt earning by then, i can sware that i never contacted the other gender through any form of communication. people say what if sometimes the need arises..? ..i say, you always have other alternatives. and now, earning for almost 2 years and can say Alhamdulillah i am independent...my mind has deviated. and yeah i dont defend myself as i know i did wrong. all i say in my defense is , its a human tendency to get attracted, and i deviated for THE reason. so when someone shows eagerness and haste in getting married doesnt mean, he is a lunatic. :). and someone ABLE enough delaying marriage is questionable to me. few of my friends say 'kya jaldi hai yaro..karinge aaraam se..'. i conclude that he is either a lunatic or he is already in a relation uncalled for.
Some thoughts on split personality now. if a person has a very loveable, honest and respectable image of himself and, and is in a relation uncalled for, i blatantly conclude that he is playing a double game. no more explaination as the above discussion should prove my point....but yeah i know, we can always defend ourselves! a bad example on this way goes with a first hand experience with my roommate. to start with, i say he is a bad guy, and i dont have any respect for him. i show this to him with my behavior towards him. friends and others, say he is a very kind, helpful and nice person to talk to. he's always there when you need him. this is not how i judge a person. yes i agree the character of a man, is what a person should be judged on...but few other aspects comes first. how many times does he pray in a day? (0). does he atleast pray Jumuah ? (no). how many times he hugs a girl in a week ? (several). he even went to the extent of staying for 10 days in Europe on his way home to meet his g-FRIEND that left US a month back.....and the list goes on and on....oh but yes, he is a kind man who is always there to hug you when you need a shoulder to cry on ;).
Enough for now. "you got the feet and you got the way...now follow the light and search the path!".
