
Attitude..? Confidence..? Ego Or Selfishness
Do these words sound similar? Which definition of attitude fits you? Confused? May be Yes.
Ego and selfishness might sound negative to you and of course they are but I don’t consider attitude to be a negative quality and something not desirable. Although Attitude can take these three forms, but not all at a time. Attitude keeps a man rocking and get going. It’s the confidence in oneself, and here goes the first meaning of attitude. But but, wait a minute.. how if you start loving your life with no limits, see everything around yourself praising you and your work, feel like your neck has got a cramp and cant look down any further and become so confident that your attitude turns you slowly to be an egoistic and a selfish person. Can this happen? Of course yes. And it happens in such a hidden manner that the person himself will not even be aware of it. He might just think that luck and time are in his favor and God is happy with him :).
Now lets see how exactly Ego can be defined. Ego is simply YOU and only YOU, and for the rest..you don't give a damn. Yes at this point you are confident in yourself but the 'ME and ONLY ME' attitude overtakes the 'confidence' definition of attitude.
I cant figure out much difference between ego and selfishness, and I don't want to browse net or look into a dictionary for the meaning right now. So let me have my own thought here..with an example to understand better. Selfish person is one who always thinks of himself..for only his betterment in any aspect. Like for example, you go to a dinner party with your friends and after reaching there finds that people are on the verge of hitting themselves to get a seat. You feel very hungry, and your friends feel too. But you don't give a damn for the world. You take a big leap and vanish from your group, get a seat, eat up to your brim and then prepare an excuse to defend yourself when you meet your friends later. This is a kind of selfishness you have shown. Whereas Egoistic people do the things more openly. They always enjoy boasting themselves. You ask about there A and B quality and they reply you with C and D as well :). and they don't bother to ask you your opinion or thank you if you have appreciated them in some way.
Well my personal experience with different souls goes this way...people with EGO kind of attitude are tough to correct and mostly incorrigible. They don't like taking help from others, will be deeply buried in problems but doesn't want others to know there situation. over confidence is the foundation that builds the EGO in you.
So what now? understand carefully where you stand and stop at the place where your attitude is in the form of confidence. Don't let it take the next step. And don't let it drop down as well. your body needs food and water to survive, your soul needs faith to be alive, as so your success needs a positive attitude to keep kicking!
There is a kind of flavor in humans which I call as 'liars and pretenders' . This 'quality' can be in combination with the above. These people are very interesting. In short they can go to any extent to please someone they want. It a discussion in itself and probably I'll write about it in my another posting sometime...
PS: These are purely my thoughts regarding the attitude stuff. Other people can have different or exactly opposite thoughts. As this is my blog so you'll find only my thoughts here :). your thoughts are most welcomed as comments...!
2 comments:
i enjoyed this article because uve written about the 4 qualities that i personally find intolerable in ppl, i hope and pray to Allah that i dont have any of these qualities in me. i think attitude is nothing but our state of emotions and it is something that everyone has, the only difference is whether the attitude is positive or negative. in our day to day life, we mostly use the word 'attitude' for style or confidence, and i think that kinda attitude is actually attractive (if it is in moderation). confidence is another quality that needs to be talked about... but i will do that in my blog, not urs :)
keep writing...
Gud one brother.. surely worth pondering about.. Would agree with most of your points.. albiet a more clear line could have been drawn between selfishness and egoism.. Egoism do contains a pinch of selfishness and more of vanity or self pride.. and do tend to hurt the subjects, if they find their ego be dented..
Yep.A self analysis in the light of the islamic teachings is needed for us not to enter into the unwanted and undesirable territories.. May Allah give us enough strength to follow the righteous path..
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