My curious mind gives me another reason to portray a blunt/blatant image of myself. and yess i love to be like that. as i dont see anything wrong with my attitude. c'mon now dont say i have an Attitude problem ~! Split identity, as i called it, to make the things simple, will make majority of readers to disagree with me. did i mention that am eccentric as well ?This all starts with two persons of opposite gender... the relation between them. no no not a couple. the other ones. ok lets call it a friendship? or may be call it a relation more than friendship! reading thousands of questions from people around the world on askimam.com about this relation, the one and only reply i have seen is, 'no its stictly prohibited, please refrain from any such actions/communications'. people try to defend themselves many times saying they are gonna get married soon in future or they can't live without each other and blah blah. but the answer to all distortions is always the SAME. Humans have developed a nature of defending themselves for the wrong they do. like a bad example goes from the guy of 'Catch me if you can' movie fame. i saw his interview in which he says 'i never felt i was doing anything bad. i wasn't robbing an old homeless guy. what if i cash a fraud check for 500 bucks from a bank that has earned millions in all right as well as wrong ways'.
Prophet SAW said, marriage becomes fard on a person as soon he stands on his own feet and is no more a dependent. and this is indeed a very very logical statement. i have experienced it myself the wisdom of it. till the age of 22, when i finished studies and wasnt earning by then, i can sware that i never contacted the other gender through any form of communication. people say what if sometimes the need arises..? ..i say, you always have other alternatives. and now, earning for almost 2 years and can say Alhamdulillah i am independent...my mind has deviated. and yeah i dont defend myself as i know i did wrong. all i say in my defense is , its a human tendency to get attracted, and i deviated for THE reason. so when someone shows eagerness and haste in getting married doesnt mean, he is a lunatic. :). and someone ABLE enough delaying marriage is questionable to me. few of my friends say 'kya jaldi hai yaro..karinge aaraam se..'. i conclude that he is either a lunatic or he is already in a relation uncalled for.
Some thoughts on split personality now. if a person has a very loveable, honest and respectable image of himself and, and is in a relation uncalled for, i blatantly conclude that he is playing a double game. no more explaination as the above discussion should prove my point....but yeah i know, we can always defend ourselves! a bad example on this way goes with a first hand experience with my roommate. to start with, i say he is a bad guy, and i dont have any respect for him. i show this to him with my behavior towards him. friends and others, say he is a very kind, helpful and nice person to talk to. he's always there when you need him. this is not how i judge a person. yes i agree the character of a man, is what a person should be judged on...but few other aspects comes first. how many times does he pray in a day? (0). does he atleast pray Jumuah ? (no). how many times he hugs a girl in a week ? (several). he even went to the extent of staying for 10 days in Europe on his way home to meet his g-FRIEND that left US a month back.....and the list goes on and on....oh but yes, he is a kind man who is always there to hug you when you need a shoulder to cry on ;).
Enough for now. "you got the feet and you got the way...now follow the light and search the path!".
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few of my friends say 'kya jaldi hai yaro..karinge aaraam se..'. i conclude that he is either a lunatic or he is already in a relation uncalled for
i say wat "few of your friends" say, and the second part is not true for me. Does that imply the first part is true??
aur bete, u can answer the question "kya jaldi hai..." yourself:P
Got you, Curious Mind!
[a 3-hours search for something worthwhile to read ended here..]
Hmm,The post drifted from more than one topic..
1."and someone ABLE enough delaying marriage is questionable to me." The clash of opinions occurs in defining the exact meaning of ABLE. The way I define that word might b quite different from ur definition. Again, yep, we define and manipulate the words according to our own requirements. And for the same reason, I guess I avoid being judgemental abt ppl, becoz u never know, a person who looks INDEPENDENT might not be all the same, as there are many aspects attached in being INDEPENDENT.
(to be contd) [:P]
WB
@WB - waiting for ur second part :-)
Brother came across Ur post while browsing.Alhamdulillah I found all Ur posts to be beneficial.. As Ur name goes Curious Mind... U really seem to be... But several points I wanna put forth
When U wanna do some thing good look at some one better than U not the one who is at a lower level of Iman.. Masha allah U r searching for a halal way to fulfill Ur requirements.. But If someone is taking a wrong path its Ur duty to tell him and correct him as it is Ordained by Allah SWT on each of Us". You [true believers in Islamic Monotheism, and real followers of Prophet Muhammad and his Sunnah (legal ways, etc.)] are the best of peoples ever raised up for mankind; you enjoin Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam has ordained) and forbid Al-Munkar (polytheism, disbelief and all that Islam has forbidden), and you believe in Allah. And had the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) believed, it would have been better for them; among them are some who have faith, but most of them are Al-Fasiqun (disobedient to Allah - and rebellious against Allah's Command)."(Surah Al-Imran V:110).. Instead of bringing other's mistake infront of ohers We can hide it and correct him as that would be more beneficial for One's Aakhirah as Commanded by Prophet SWT "Each of you is the mirror of his brother, so if he sees any fault in him he should wipe it away." - (Al-Tirmidhi,Hadith: 1286)
May Allah Guide us All to be righteous(Aameen).. Keep up the good work.. Jazakallah
@Anonymous - Jazakallah khair for the nice words..yes, i do believe that i shouldnt have written the part you have mentioned. may be it was my mood that time..I felt deleting it later but by that time people have already read it.
I regret and Inshallah will try to follow as you said in future.
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